The Power of Beliefs
Where do beliefs originate?
Do they come from social media? Advertisers? Authority figures? Parents? Your own experiences?
All the above, is a good place to begin. However, our beliefs tend to become deeply rooted as we are young children and they are hugely dictated by the environment we grow up in.
Parents play a mighty role in this. At times it may not seem noticeable, especially just going about everyday life, like we do, but kids soak up every little step you take and every word you say, like sponges. A frightening thought?! Yes, frightening, but true.
The beliefs and thought patterns which are set up in early childhood form the basis of our future relationships - including the one we have with ourselves.
ALL of our memories and early experiences are used as reference points as we mature, much of this is unconscious. For example, how we react to something today can be a result of a previous experience and the beliefs that were seeded when we were 7 or 8 years old. Crazy to think, right?!
Parents...you may be wondering how to go about setting up the best possible scenario for your athlete to develop beliefs that will set them up for success. It is possible, it can be done. It requires consciousness and awareness.
Here is a helpful “Self Check”
CHECK YOUR LANGUAGE
- is it harsh, sarcastic, cruel, degrading, impatient, insensitive, or otherwise disconnecting in tone or attitude - verbally or nonverbally, or is it kind, respectful, encouraging, and confident?
CHECK YOUR EXPECTATIONS
- is your request developmentally appropriate? How can you help your child? Can you control the environment to meet your needs w/out your child's help?
CHECK YOUR SELF-REGULATION
- is your manner calm and confident? Are your limits set with kindness regardless of how your child reacts? Can you remain composed and non-argumentative even when your child is not? (source)
Whether it be in sports or in life. We carry the same set of beliefs around with us. You as a parent have a strong influence on both, but so does the outside world.
How will you help your athletes benefit the most from the beliefs that they already have developed and how will you continue to work alongside them as they develop new ones?
We know every single parents out there is doing their best and we know you want the best for you children/child but in reality, you can’t do it all. Mentors don’t replace parents, we only enhance.
There is a role our RISE Olympian Mentors play that offers a perspective of sport and life that no one else can offer. The impact we have is profound as we provide the tools, techniques, and an individualized curriculum unique to anything they will get at home, at school ( no matter how hard you self teach) or on a club sport team ( no matter how hard you self coach).
Growing up is difficult, leaving many youth with the feeling of inadequacy but sport has been found to help increase self-esteem and self-confidence in children. It makes sense to make their sporting experience THE BEST IT CAN BE. It will translate over into every aspect of their lives.
And that’s where we come in.
RISE Blog Contributor